JINJIN & GUI

袁跃出 - Rachel

 

跟金金真正熟起来，其实已经是大学快毕业的时候了。我们的宿舍只隔着两道墙，但她总是神出鬼没，像风一样来去匆匆。在大学里, 大多数人还在摸索人生、认识自己，而金金好像一开始就很了解自己，很洒脱。

 

在我窝在寝室研究美妆、刷美剧的时候，经常看到她在走廊里飞奔去体育馆的身影，偶尔甩下一句”女孩子要爱惜自己的羽毛…球”这样的金句让我回味至今。

 

金金的身上有各种矛盾的结合。她是低调却很耀眼的人，有吸引所有人的磁场。她是个既敏感又不敏感的人。她似乎在任何场合都能笑得出来，但细心一点就会发现，她的玩笑总是刚刚好——那是她用轻松的方式温柔地保护她爱的人。她也是成熟却坚称自己是个孩子的人，但是”宝想要，宝得到”, 是因为她从不把生活的决定权交给别人，一直追求心中所爱。

 

毕业后，我们都去了美国留学，在异国重逢。每次见面都很短暂，却特别治愈。我们见证了彼此的青春。多年前，我以为她会嫁给一个让她任性，任她摆布的人。而今，她选择了一个把她的快乐当作人生第一目标的人，一个真正把她当作平等、全心全意支持她成长的Gui。看到她和鬼的感情，我就知道她真的成熟了。那些我们身处异国的日子里，我猜她走了很久、很蜿蜒，也许些许孤独的路。

 

她有次说，看着鬼有时会想哭，我问为什么，她说，那是一种爱在流动时的心动。我希望她和鬼一辈子都能拥有这种心动——不是短暂的悸动，而是在平凡日子里，依然会为彼此柔软、为彼此勇敢、选择彼此的那种心动。也希望金永远做爱惜自己的羽毛…球的女孩子。

 

爱你的出

 

 

I only truly got close to Jinjin toward the end of college. Our dorm rooms were separated by just two walls, yet she always seemed to appear and disappear like the wind. In college, it’s actually quite hard to be truly different—most people are still figuring out life and themselves—while Jinjin already seemed to be standing at the place we were all trying to reach.

 

When I was curled up in my dorm room studying makeup and binge-watching American TV shows, I often saw her sprinting down the hallway toward the gym, occasionally tossing out one of her classic lines like, “Girls should cherish their feathers… shuttlecock,” which still makes me smile to this day.

 

Jinjin is a beautiful collection of contradictions. She is low-key yet radiant, with a magnetic presence that draws people in. She is both sensitive and seemingly not—she can smile in any setting, but if you look closely, you’ll notice her jokes always land just right. That’s her gentle way of protecting the people she loves. She is also mature, yet insists she’s still a child. But “if baby wants it, baby gets it,” because she never hands over the steering wheel of her life—she keeps chasing the life she believes in, with clarity and determination.

 

After graduation, we both went to the U.S. and reunited there. Every meeting was brief, but deeply healing. We witnessed each other’s youth. Years ago, I thought she would marry someone who spoiled her and let her have her way. Instead, she chose someone who makes her happiness his life’s top priority—someone who truly sees her as an equal and supports her growth wholeheartedly: Gui. Seeing their relationship, I knew she had truly matured. In those years when we were living in different countries, I imagine she walked a long, winding road—perhaps with moments of loneliness along the way.

 

Once she told me that sometimes, when she looks at Gui, she feels like crying. I asked why, and she said it’s the feeling of love in motion—the kind of heartbeat that comes from love flowing.

 

I hope she and Gui will carry this kind of heartbeat for a lifetime—not just fleeting excitement, but the kind of love that stays soft, brave, and choosing each other, even in the most ordinary days. And I hope Jinjin will always be a girl who cherishes her feathers… shuttlecock.

 

Love you,

出

徐雪 - Xue

 

不知不觉，我们的友谊已经走过了十四年。时间有时候真的很奇怪，好像只是一个不经意的抬头，你还坐在明商的某个教室里，窗外的光轻轻落下来，你低着头转笔，偶尔薅一下头发，穿着有点可爱风的运动装。

 

那时候我常常在心里想，世界上怎么会有这么自律的人呢？每天都会给自己带水果，晚上会按时回寝室睡觉，还那么有运动天分，像一颗被认真照顾的小行星，按照自己的轨道安静运转。

 

后来才发现，原来不知不觉间，我们已经拥有了这么多重叠的记忆。英实的两年，我们是前后桌；商英班的所有课我们几乎都在一起；小组作业、军训、合唱，还有短暂成为羽毛球课搭子的一学期…那些看似零散的片段现在回想起来是我们最快乐的时光。

 

在我们的相处里，我慢慢看见你看似粗线条的性格背后，其实藏着一个心思细腻的小女孩。偷偷看过你在fb 上的小四文学，读起来让人忍不住在屏幕前会心一笑。大学四年过得太匆忙了，匆忙到很多人在毕业那天之后就再也没有出现在彼此的人生里。但我很开心，我们之间的羁绊没有因为毕业而停下，未来的我们还有那么多交集。

 

毕业之后，我们在一座又一座城市里团聚：上海、伦敦、阿姆、巴塞罗那、哥哈、尼斯……城市的名字像一串被点亮的坐标，每一次相聚，都在悄悄拉近我们心里的距离。虽然很遗憾缺席了你在美国和上海的那几年，但也庆幸，我们在欧洲拥有了那么多可以短暂相聚的时光。

 

这些年，我亲眼见证了你和 gui 的相遇、相知，看着你们跨越异国恋的距离与时差，在现实的缝隙中一次次选择彼此。你们互相成就，也在彼此的陪伴中，慢慢长成更好的自己。我一直很佩服你，你总是（看起来）很轻松地达成自己想要的目标，仿佛努力本身也被你处理得温柔而从容。可你在学业和事业上的那些成就，却只是你众多闪光点中最不值一提的优点。

 

不知不觉间我看见了更多面的你：在呼噜和布丁狗面前，像妈妈一样温柔的你；在困难和未知面前，依然充满韧性与勇气的你；曾经直面孤独，却始终愿意保持积极的你；愿意不断尝试新事物的你；还有这么多年都没有改变的，对朋友永远真诚、热忱的你，永远可以真实面对自己的你。在你身上，我看到了越来越多的闪光点，也在那些光里，看见了一部分我想成为的、更好的自己。

 

金崽，写到这里我真的为你感到无比骄傲。谢谢你让我成为你这么多年的至交好友，也很荣幸，能够站在你婚礼的那一天成为你的伴娘，能够见证你和 gui 一起翻开人生的新篇章。

 

“祝你们幸福美满”或许有些俗套，但我从来没有怀疑过，你们会坚定地携手走下去。在未来的时光里，想拥有的一切都会慢慢来到，想去的地方也一定都能抵达。

 

爱你的雪花

 

Before I knew it, our friendship had already lasted fourteen years. Time has a funny way of doing that. Sometimes it feels like if I look up for just a moment, I’ll still see you sitting in one of the classrooms at Ming Shang—head down, spinning your pen, tugging at your hair, wearing a sporty outfit with that slightly cute touch that was always so you.

 

Back then, I often wondered how someone could be so disciplined. You brought fruit for yourself every day, went back to the dorm on time at night, and somehow managed to be good at every sport you tried. You moved through life like a little planet, steady and calm, always following your own path.

 

Before we realized it, we had built so many shared memories together. Two years in English Studies sitting in front of and behind each other, nearly every Business English class side by side, group projects, military training, choir practice，and even that short semester when we became badminton partners. At the time, they felt like small, ordinary moments. Now I know they were some of the happiest ones.

 

As I got to know you better, I discovered that behind your easygoing, big-hearted personality is someone incredibly thoughtful and sensitive. Your little pieces of writing on Facebook always made me smile. University flew by so quickly - so quickly that many people drifted out of each other’s lives after graduation. But somehow, ours never did. I’m grateful that our story didn’t stop there, and that life still keeps bringing us back together.

 

After graduation, we found each other again and again in different cities：Shanghai, London, Amsterdam, Barcelona, Copenhagen, Nice. Each reunion, no matter how brief, made the distance between us feel smaller. While I missed those years when you were in the U.S. and Shanghai, I’m thankful that Europe gave us so many chances to meet and make new memories.

 

Over the years, I’ve had the privilege of witnessing your journey with Gui - from the very beginning. I watched you navigate long distance, time zones, and real-life challenges, choosing each other again and again. You’ve grown together, supported each other, and become better versions of yourselves. I’ve always admired how you reach your goals with such grace, as if even hard work comes naturally to you. And yet, your achievements are only a small part of what makes you so remarkable.

 

I’ve seen so many sides of you - the gentle, almost motherly you with Hulu and Budinggou; the brave and resilient you when facing uncertainty; the you who stayed positive even in moments of loneliness; the you who is always willing to try something new; and the you who has never changed: sincere, wholehearted, and always true to yourself. Knowing you has made me want to be a better person too.

 

Jinjin, I am so incredibly proud of you. Thank you for being my closest friend all these years. It means the world to me to stand beside you today as your bridesmaid and to witness you and Gui begin this next chapter of your lives together.

 

Wishing you happiness may sound simple, but I have no doubt that you will walk forward hand in hand, with strength and love. May everything you dream of slowly come true, and may every place you hope to go be reached—together.

 

With all my love,

Xue